Common
causes that lead to divorce
and/or separation include jealousy.
Other problems such as abuse, bigamy, adultery, guilt, abandonment,
imprison, conflicting beliefs, inconsideration, disrespect, and lack of
commitment in general.
Jealousy
comes in two forms. One form is harmful while the other form is legit.
Jealousy delivered in disposition of attitude and/or feelings often
cause harm, while zealous forms of jealousy enforce love. Zealous is a
watchfulness eye that looks out for the loved one. Zealous mates will
work hard to make sure harmful objects or persons are not in the way of
true love. Zealous persons will labor throughout the relationship to
deliver and fulfill needs to their mate.
Jealousy
acted out on hurt emotions can, only further the problem. If a man has
a wandering eye, of course this is wrong, since it is showing disregard
and lack of respect to the mate. The action also tells the mate that if
someone else came along the man may stray. The action further tells the
mate that lust is the partners may focus, thus elements of love that
make the relationship firm are non-existing, or lacking.
Of
course, the mate may feel jealous and with good cause, but allowing the
emotions to override thought will only enforce the inappropriate
behaviors of the partner.
Inappropriate
habits and behaviors, which include careless viewing of programs, or
careless consideration in choices overall can increase jealousy, since
the emotions become triggered. If the partner has a habit of watching
nude programs, pornography, or else reading materials of such content,
he/she is lacking respect for the mate. Thus, obvious reason for
jealousy exist (zealous) since the mate is wronged, thus the
relationship will have problems.
When
a person loves another person, the mate will hold the up most attention
to the partner. A man that loves his wife will not be looking at other
women with sexual eye, or else with intentions of spicing up the
relationship. Rather, the man will take pleasure and enjoyment with his
mate’s makeup, and find pleasure, satisfaction and joy from
the
person. Women are not objects of sexuality, or entertainment, however
women as well as men are objects, since both work with the other to
breakdown relationships.
Thus,
this type of relationship is a one-way street, since one partner is
self-devoted, and focuses on lust, while the other partner is working
alone to keep a relationship alive.
Abuse is another form of
disrespect, inconsideration and an action that
breaks down relationships. Love may exist on one end of the
relationship, but at the other end hate lurks the chambers of the
hurting souls. When a man and/or women strike their mate, especially a
man, since physically he is stronger, thus, love is not evident. Women
that abuse good men that will not hit a woman are poor excuses of
women. Likewise, men that batter women are poor excuses of human
beings. Men, are guided to love their mate as them self. When a man
strikes his mate, the bible clearly states that any man treated his
wife treacherous will meet the wrath of God. Thus, the hate inside
these types of men has no room for love and commitment. These types are
surefire illustrations of self-devotion and self-gratification.
When
a mate commits an act of adultery or fornication with another
individual outside of the relationship, thus the person is showing
disregard and inconsideration to the partner in the relationship. When
the mate continues the deceitful treatment against the mate by lying,
thus over time the relationship will fail, since God has a way of
making the light known to others.
When
a person commits bigamy, adultery or fornication outside a
relationship, thus the person is saying to the mate that you have no
worth to me.
Thus, adultery
or
acts inappropriate in relationships often lead to guilt. Guilt is the
number one force that will consume the mind and eat at it until someone
snaps. When a person lives on good standards and beliefs, thus, it
leaves little room for guilt therefore a relationship will stand.
