When
the mind allows guilt to take
over, it will tear down
relationships, especially if the partner fails to come to terms and
agreement with self. To determine if your mind is full of guilt you
must ask your self-questions. What did you do so wrong that would
offend your partner that cannot be forgiving?
Guilt
can break the mind down to the point of no return. Guilt is more than a
mistake made; rather it is a violation against rights, humanity,
belief, tradition, standards, and love.
When
a person fails in a relationship, they may feel a measure of guilt.
Thus, confronting the problem now can remove the guilt and make the
relationship work. When people confront their problems, it often leads
to workable agreements. When procrastination, or else lying to cover
the wrong continues the mind consumes itself with emotions based on
guilt.
Guilt occurs when
conscious actions or thoughts interfere with someone else’s
rights, or else against the own person’s beliefs. Mistakes
leading to guilt depend on the situation, but for the most part wrongs
can lead to right if humanity exists.
If
a person commits adultery, thus the problem is solvable if the person
acted out of emotion, rather than thought and commits to restoring
trust. Of course, actions, effort, behaviors and habits must show the
mate that the mistake will never occur again. It depends on the mate
but some will forgive, while others may take the insult of the partner
letting them know their worth in the relationship to heart and may
decide separation and/or divorce is the way out. Adultery is stating to
the mate that you have no worth. If the mate decides to forgive, thus
you must do your part and allow the guilt to turn into effort to
restore trust. You will need consideration, loyalty, compassion,
honesty, and may even need to tell your every move for a while during
the course of restore. A person with true remorse will work hard,
regardless of what he/she needs to do to restore trust.
If
a person violates the right of the partner, thus, it depends on the
magnitude of violation, but in most instances, it is workable. People
act out of emotions and impulses at times, and will often act out of
lust occasionally. When the emotions, impulses and desires take control
(depending on the length of time control is enforced), the person may
do things he or she ordinarily would not do.
Thus,
adultery is a justifiable reason to divorce or separate from the
spouse, but looking at the entirety of the circumstance can help a
person decide. Was the spouse enticed by another individual to commit
the act, while the spouse was feeling vulnerable? Still, vulnerability
is no excuse on the spouse’s part, but if enticement is the
case,
then two people wronged you. Was the other person in the act deceived?
Did your mate lead the person to believe that he/she was not in a
commitment?
Examining the
entirety of the act can help the mate determine the direction the
relationship is heading, and help the other partner decide what he/she
needs to do to make things right again.
Divorce
is an attack on the emotions, since a trigger hits the heart and
emotions and creates pain, sorrow, hurt, sadness, et cetera. Divorce is
showing a disregard for the marriage arrangement unless true reasons
for divorce are evident. Thus, divorce should only be considered if the
mate commits adultery, abuses the partner, or fails to commit in the
relationship arrangement, and/or if death occurs.
If
you are in a relationship and your mate committed an insulting act
against you, such as adultery. Thus, considering the entirety will help
you make a wise decision. If another person enticed your mate on
vulnerable grounds, thus consider your partner by asking what were, you
thinking at the time. If your mate responds by saying I
wasn’t
thinking, thus you can ask, what makes me think it won’t
happen
again? If your mate is sincerely sorry, he/she will let you know by
words, action, emotions, thoughts, and tone spoken.
